Love & Organizing

It's February, and in celebration of love, I thought it was appropriate to share some thoughts on a common concern:

 

2. Revitalization of Romance - Organizing together clears emotional clutter and opens new possibilities for healthy connections.  When couples are intimate emotionally and mentally, their physical intimacy naturally increases as well.

 

Before you begin, take a quiet moment and share your experience and vision for the space to be organized.  Creating a Shared Vision is crucial for organizing success.  Remember, it's not about being in agreement, but being in "alignment". You may not think they're right but because you're a team player, you are willing to go along and give it a try.  Dispense your disbelief in pursuit of the bigger vision.

 

Now, for a few "rules of engagement":

 

1.  Respect Each Other's Personal Spaces: Everyone's capacity for chaos is different. Unless the person wants to get organized, you only have control over your own space.  Together, decide which spaces are shared and require organizing and which are off-limits.  If he or she is content with their own personal space, then leave them alone.

 

2. Respect Each Other's Things: Don't toss or donate any items not belonging to you.  Unless your spouse or partner is involved.  You can encourage one another and offer your input, but the final decision is theirs.

 

3. Whenever Possible, Use Humor:  A sense of humor always mitigates stress.  Just make sure not to do so with the intent of hurting each other's feelings.

 

Organizing together with your spouse or partner can be a challenge but it isn't impossible.  It's a process.  If you're one of the lucky few who share similar organizational skills and approaches to order, then bravo to you both.  If, on the other hand, you're like most couples, and you need a facilitator, then either choose a mutual friend you trust to moderate or hire a professional organizer to help streamline the process.

Riv Lynch